When he first told me he was gonna have to transfer because of some changes with the football program, I was sad but I tried not to think about it. Now that It's getting closer to him leaving I'm trying to be supportive and make sure that our relationship stays strong even though we'll be far, far apart. I love making a good list sooooo I started to compile a list of ways to stay close to my baby. In a long distance relationship you and your boo are literally in two different worlds. So we're going to try to navigate through both worlds for the good of the relationship.
Ways to Keep Your LDR Strong
1) Talk. Honestly, Me and my bf do this already. We talk constantly. By constantly i mean, we wake up in the morning and text or call one another, we text sometimes during class or while I'm at work, we FaceTime walking between classes, we snapchat some days, we facetime or talk on the phone pretty much every night before we go to sleep (if we aren't already at one another's apartment.) I think that this constant connection will become even more important to us while we are separated.
2) Think positive thoughts! I've been trying to think as optimistically as possible over the past few weeks. It feels a lot better that thinking about all the things that could go wrong. One thing that is good about LDR in that when you do get to see your sig other you're super excited. Not seeing each other for so long fuels your desire to be with each other, when you do see each other its like falling in love all over again. Dawwww. I remember planning out outfits down to the socks and dreaming about seeing my bf when I was in a long distance relationship. Planning a weekend to spend with him was super exciting. Going on dates was way more fun because we didn't see each other a lot. Being in a LDR brings a little more novelty into your relationship that was not there before.
3) Surprise visits. If you have a key or can get into your guy's home or apartment it makes it even more exciting for him and for you. Showing up unexpectedly at a time when you know your man is just getting out of class, getting off work, or coming home from a meeting with his favorite meal or tickets to a game or a picnic basket would make most men grin like little boys. I know bringing my bf a chipotle burrito with an Arnold Palmer and a king sized package of resees cups when he's getting out of football practice would make his day.
4) Use your alone time wisely. Interpret that as you see fit.
5) Plan ahead but be flexible. I'm the planner in my relationship. My bf is the kind of person that would just expect me call and say I'm otw. Me, on the other hand, I need to have a full itinerary of the whole trip. I like to know what I'm doing before I do it. By being a practical planner you can guarantee that you won't overlap plans with your bf.
6) Make good use of your time together! Especially if you see each other very rarely. Don't waste time laying around or fighting. Do something fun with each other.
7) Plan for the future. Most people in LDR probably don't want to have that status forever. So make an exit plan with your partner. For example, once I graduate from a masters program both me and my bf will be in a position to chose where we live and hopefully it will be in the same city. We're taking it slow, but I feel like being in a long distance relationship will be the test to see if we're really meant to be together.
Being in a LDR is a true test of trust and commitment, so if you believe in your love and believe in your relationship then be strong in your convictions and the time will come when your LDR becomes a SDR (short distance relationship.) So in the words of Whitney "Deep inside can't you see? That I believe in you and me."